FAQ's

How can Therapy Help me?

Do I really need therapy? I can usually handle my problems.

Why do people go to therapy and how do I know if it is right for me?

What is Therapy like?

What about medication vs. psychotherapy?

Do you take insurance, and how does that work?


How can Bearings help ME?

You may think therapy is too touchy-feely for you, that you’re not a talk-y kind of person.  Bearings is different. 

Bearings operates on the principles of Honor, Courage, and Commitment.  In their therapeutic work, my clients learn how to honor themselves and their family, how to be the people they promised themselves and their family they would be, and how to be honest with themselves about what they value as a family and what kind of life they want to build and live together.  

My clients have courage.  With my help and support, they face their fears, their failures, and their pain.  They learn how to accept pain and reject suffering.  They learn the value of vulnerability with the people they’re closest to, and they face the paralyzing fear of rejection and judgment by those they love with grit and faith. They do the hard thing, even when they don’t want to.  

My clients are committed to themselves and their families.  They do whatever it takes to get through. They give 100%  in every aspect of their work because they know they are working for something greater than themselves.  They learn how to be unselfish and loyal to each other because they know, just like on the battlefield, their family is their unit.  They learn how to depend on each other for their spiritual, emotional, and mental strength 24/7.  

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Do I really need therapy? I can usually handle my problems.

Yes.  Yes you do.  I know you've tried to handle your own shit, but let's get real.  You’re fucked up, dude,  and you know it.  You spend your nights worrying about whether or not you did the right thing, about whether you’re failing your family, about how you and your spouse don’t connect anymore. You would have done this, and you should have done that, and oh shit what did I do, and those things haunt you at night.  You’ve tried everything to get it done on your own because, hey, they trained us to be independent and strong, right?  But you don’t feel strong anymore.  And you don’t feel comfortable talking to anyone.  A: you don’t want to relive that shit, and B: you’re not all share-y and interested in talking out your garbage

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Why Bearings?

You need a place to go that understands who you are, what you're made of, what you're capable of, even when you've forgotten.  You need someone to help you get back in the fight.  I've lived the life as an active duty Marine, a retired, disabled vet, and a military spouse with a kid.  I get it.  I've seen firsthand the damage this life can do to you and your family.  For many of you, I've been where you are.  Call me, talk to me, come see me.  You'll develop coping mechanisms that are actually good for you.  You'll learn to live a life aligned with what you value most.  Your family will learn how to cope, too, and to build a family structure that is mutually supportive.  I know you don't like the idea of talking about it in front of your family.  I told you Bearings is different.  This isn't about processing your trauma with your family, it's about learning how to build a family that honors each other and cares for each other.  I'm sorry to tell you that PTSD doesn't go away.  Sure, there are methods out there to reduce your constant reactivity, make things livable again.  And if that's what you want, I know several good individual therapists for that.   But that shit happened.  It can't un-happen.  At Bearings, you'll learn to develop a new mindset around your trauma, learn to accept it an integrate it in ways that are initially very fucking uncomfortable, but ultimately worth it.

You want your life back.  You want to be the person you were before.  I'm here to tell you that's a bad fucking idea. That guy went through some serious shit and broke.  Do you really want to be that guy again?  The guy that broke?  Or do you want to be something stronger, more resilient, something that bends in the storm.  At Bearings you can find that family, BE that family.    

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What is Therapy like?

 I’m a different kind of therapist.  I’m a Marine myself, and I am not going to put up with your excuses.  You’re uncomfortable?  Good.  You need to be, or nothing is going to change.  Let me lay a little knowledge at your feet. Therapy ain’t rainbows and kittens, pal.  It’s blood, sweat, tears, dirt, HARD.  If you walk through my door, you better be ready to WORK.  I’m not going to do it for you.  I will train you.  I will guide you.  I will help you get your bearings, but YOU are the one who’s got to do the work.   I won’t lie—this is going to SUCK.  But we’re part of the same family, and I’m gonna help you get through it.  

And here’s the kicker— you’re going to do it with your family.  See, I’m a FAMILY therapist.  The techniques I teach aren’t just for you.  They’re for the people you feel like you’re failing, the ones you need to reconcile with, the ones you think are afraid of you, the ones you’ve been hiding from.  They’re your support system, and I’m going to show you and them how to make that support system as strong as that meat-head PFC who’s obsessed with the UFC.

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What about medication vs. psychotherapy?

You've tried to medicate this.  Medication alone is not going to carry the load.  If your brain is so deep in depression that it's not producing enough serotonin anymore, you need a pharmacological leg up.  I know meds suck, and you're probably on a bunch of other ones.  This is important, though.  When depression is sucking the life out of you and you're sucking the life out of everyone else as a result,  it's important to do everything you can, give 100%.  This is your family we're talking about.  It's all you want.  One little pill is worth that.  

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Do you take insurance, and how does that work?

 I don't take insurance.  I'm private pay only.  I take cash, credit card, checks, and HSA cards.  

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